Coming Out

My friend just came out to her family today.

Her parents never did suspect.

Questions about how she should get married and why she wasn't dating a guy were pushed under the carpet.

When she was a student and still living under their roof, she was afraid to come out just in case they threw her out.

When she started working and had a girlfriend, she said she would tell them when her career is stable.

When she was dating her 3rd girlfriend, she said she would wait until she confirms she is the one.

That did not happen for many years.

So I asked her, why now?

She said she was just sick of living a lie. A lie often leads to another and then another. It's a never ending story.

Her parents are surprisingly ok with it. They really want her to be happy but are worried about her future.

They just can't seem to see how a lesbian relationship can work in the Singaporean society.

She knows she has to be patient and timing is crucial in dealing with such delicate matters.

"But there is hope out there, some parents eventually see the light and if they don't, your life must go on", she said.

So my dear girls, have courage, have hope and have the wisdom to know what is right in your heart of hearts.

For all the girls feeling blue about such issues, know that there are many who have taken your path and survived brilliantly.

Your day will come, be sure of that.